Thought Stack

Think of something that's really bugging you. Now ask yourself why it bugs you and explore your values underlying the feeling.

Growth over comfort.

When you get too comfortable or good enough, it gives you the permission to stop pushing yourself. 'Good enough' is the worst nightmare someone could have if they want to get the life they desire. Chase what you want, don't just take what you get.

When discussion about a decision, often we want to postpone it because we're not sure about it. Before we do this, ask yourself: "What will change if I postpone this decision? What do I expect from postponing this decision? What insights do I expect to get that will influence the decision?" This approach will hopefully decrease the time spend reaching a decision and get things done faster.

Optimize for feelings, not memories

More and more, I realize that what I remember from a trip or experience is not the view, conversations or food, but the feelings I had during that time. I remember how it felt, drinking turkish coffee and eating a Simit on that park bench on the european river bank in Istanbul, watching the sun rise over the city. Not how it tasted.

I remember how it felt, arriving at the Edmund Probst hut after 11 hours, 35km and 3000m elevation gain, being completely exhausted, but also glad and proud of the achievement. Not how the view was.

I take photos to remember hot this moment felt, not how it looked.

This, of course, requires you to be present in the moment, to really experience it, and lock this feeling into your memory.

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I know you can be more, but you are enough already, and even if you stay where you are, I'll be right here next to you. You're going to be great, ubt you don't need to be great, and I'm with you no matter what.

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When a man can't find a sense of meaning, they distract themselves with pleasure. Viktor Frankl

When a man can't a find a deep sense of pleasure, they distract themselves with meaning. Frankls Inverse Law

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Watch one, do one, teach one. The only way to truly learn something.

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Be comfortable with silence in conversations. Let the other person fill the silence, and don't feel the need to fill it yourself. You'll be surprised how much people will say if you just give them the space to do so.

Pushing Change vs. Building Sustainable Change

Pushing change by providing a solution or providing direct feedback is often not effective and might only work for small adjustments that can be easily implemented. It is often connected to the feedback giver and can stem from a feeling of recognition or need for status ("I want my idea to be implemented", or "My boss wants the idea to be implemented"). Structural change needs to come from within a person through self-recognition and realization. It is often disconnected from the person initiating it and much longer winded to be introduced. As someone who wants to drive change, you need to be comfortable with not getting any credits for the change that was achieved. You can prime it, but others will be the integrators.

When proposing a new idea, think about your feelings in regard to the idea. It might be anger, need for status, neglection or drive.

Up and Downsides of Consolidation of Group Work

Make teams consolidate their work results forces them to collaborate. The downside is that is takes more time and some people might feel like their results get lost in the process and were unnecessary.